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Some stories are not for scrolling past. This one belongs to Lisa Schaefer.
Five years ago she was working part time in healthcare and getting buried in office work she was never built for. She prayed about it, and she says God told her to go home. She went, a little like Abram, with no idea why.
She thought maybe she was supposed to write a memoir. Trouble was, she is not a writer. She says she does not even want to take down the order before the family gets pizza.
So she sat at a blank screen for weeks.
She had plenty of material. Twenty five years of homeschooling. Three adopted children with special needs. Infertility. An interracial family. None of it felt right.
Then a friend prayed one sentence over her, and the wall came down. She said the place God has redeemed Lisa the most is probably the place she is meant to reach out from.
That changed everything.
Her father left when she was two. A man abused her when she was five. She carried the shame, and she says she built plenty of her own on top of it. It took four decades before she could forgive either one of them, and by the time she did, she had almost forgotten how heavy it had been to carry.
Now she walks women through the same process.
In this conversation she talks about the difference between asking Jesus to be your Savior and making Him Lord, and why forgiveness gets so hard when that gap is still open. She talks about starting with the lie underneath the pain instead of the pain itself. I do not feel loved, prove to me I am. She talks about what to do at two in the morning when the memory comes back. And she says out loud what a lot of women are afraid to say, that both of her perpetrators died without ever asking her for anything.
She is also clear about what she will not do. She does not sit in the ugliness with a woman and pick it apart. She says you are not your trauma, and she means to get you out.
There is a line in this episode you will not forget. A pastor once told her that staying bitter means handing your heart to the very person you would never give it to.
Lisa hosts The Diary of a Discarded Daughter, available on Spotify, Apple, iHeart, Amazon Music, and YouTube.
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