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Q&A! Confessing To Cheating A Decade Later & Crushing On Your BFF's Boyfriend - Ep 489
10 September 2026

Q&A! Confessing To Cheating A Decade Later & Crushing On Your BFF's Boyfriend - Ep 489

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It's Q&A time! We're back, answering YOUR burning questions!


You're happily married with kids but you carry a secret from a decade ago, before starting a family. Is it worth rocking the boat to tell the truth all these years later? If you like your coworker but hate how she ALWAYS cuts you off, what's the best way to fix her social faux-pas? Your mother-in-law keeps cornering you to trauma dump—how do you draw the line between devoted daughter-in-law and de facto therapist? And what to do when you can't stop crushing on your best friend's dashing boyfriend? Come join us in our living room for good conversation and the Shandy take!


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Time Stamps:

0:00 - Housekeeping

1:48 - Q1: My Coworker Always Cuts Me Off—How Do I Handle This?

11:30 - Q2: It Has Been 10 Years Since I Cheated—To Confess Or Not To Confess?

37:35 - Q3: I Have A Crush On My Best Friend’s Boyfriend—Help!

58:53 - Q4: My Mother-In-Law Treats Me Like Her Therapist—Help!



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