306. It's Ok If You're Not Aligned On How Fast (Or Slow) To Progress In Early Dating

How fast should a relationship actually move? In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the trickiest parts of early dating: what to do when you and the person you’re dating aren’t moving at the same pace. We’ll talk about why pacing mismatches are so normal, how to tell when a relationship is simply moving slowly versus going nowhere, and how to navigate it when one person is ready for the next step before the other.
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Why there’s no universal timeline for becoming official, having sex, saying “I love you,” or hitting other relationship milestones

The difference between a pacing mismatch and a pacing problem

Why wanting the same relationship but moving at different speeds can still work

How to talk about pacing without turning every date into a relationship check-in

What to say when you need more time or when you’re the one waiting

Why someone moving slowly doesn’t necessarily mean they’re less interested in you

How to know when “slow” has become stagnant

The five areas of a relationship where you should still see some forward motion

Why catching feelings makes pacing feel so much more stressful

How to stay present and keep vetting someone instead of obsessing over the next milestone

Plus, I answer a Dating Dilemma from a listener whose two past connections unexpectedly came back into her life.
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