We’re always teaching our kids values. The question is, are we being intentional about it? In this episode of the All Pro Dad Podcast, host Ted Lowe is joined by BJ Foster and Bobby Lewis to reflect on the lessons they were taught and offer four practical ways parents can pass on solid principles to their kids.
Why This Matters
The values we intentionally teach and model become the compass that guides our kids’ character, decisions, and relationships for the rest of their lives.
Key Takeaways
· Kids watch us constantly: Harvard research shows children learn social behaviors primarily through observing and imitating adults, especially parents.
· Being specific matters: General praise doesn’t accomplish as much as specific praise, which, when tied to values, increases repetitive behaviors.
Actions Steps for Dads
1: Think through the values you want to teach.
2: Talk about values with your kids.
3: Model your values.
4: Affirm your kids when they live out your values.
Important Episode Timestamps
00:00:21 – Childhood Values That Shape Who You Become
00:01:59 – When You Don’t Live Up to Your Values
00:04:07 – You’re Always Teaching Values (On Purpose or Not)
00:04:58 – Why Kids Need Values to Navigate Life
00:06:43 – The Two Values That Matter Most: Character and Relationships
00:07:38 – Step 1: Decide What Your Family Stands For
00:10:57 – Real-Life Family Values That Actually Work
00:12:28 – Step 2: Talk About Your Values With Your Kids
00:13:08 – Teaching Perseverance: “Don’t Quit”
00:14:04 – Step 3: Model the Values You Want to See
00:18:18 – Step 4: Affirm and Reinforce Good Behavior
APD Pro Move:
Write out your family values together as a group. Put them on paper and hang them somewhere in your house where you can see them, memorize them, and hold each other to them.
All Pro Dad Resources:
4 Ways to Teach Your Kids to Be More Than a Good Person
Don’t Raise Perfect Kids—Raise Good Ones
5 Ways to Help Your Kids Stan
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