Mastering Workplace Negotiations | How to Ace Interviews with Dave Wolovsky

The secret to winning workplace negotiations is wanting the outcome a little less: build other options before the meeting, so nerves and neediness don't drive the conversation. In this episode of the 9 to 5 Wellness Podcast, host Aesha Tahir sits down with Dave Wolovsky, a cognitive performance and career coach with a master's in neuroscience and education from Columbia University and founder of EffortWise.

Together they unpack why talented professionals with flawless resumes freeze in job interviews, salary negotiations and annual reviews. Dave explains how to turn pre-meeting anxiety into useful energy, treat interviews as a two-way evaluation of fit, and balance the power dynamic with your boss or hiring manager.

They also answer listener questions on when to bring up salary in an interview, a three-step script for negotiating a job offer, how to ask for a promotion despite imposter syndrome, how to quantify your value in a performance review without sounding boastful, and what to do after being passed over for promotion three times.

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🧑‍🎓🎓What you'll learn

Why smart people freeze under pressure, and the two points of intervention: detaching from the outcome ahead of time, and befriending your personal "signature" of nerves right before the moment.How to treat a job interview as a mutual evaluation of fit, not an interrogation, by getting comfortable talking about yourself.How to prepare for the one question you dread: every decision makes sense in context, so craft an honest story you're happy to tell.How to balance the power dynamic in interviews, salary negotiations and reviews by building real options, and why faking leverage reads as arrogant.Why ease beats perfection in a job search: 18 ten-minute applications beat one three-hour application, because the search ends when you get lucky.When to bring up salary in an interview: wait until they want you and trust is built, unless they state a fixed number up front.A three-step salary negotiation script: affirm your excitement, ask for X more (with or without a reason), then invite them to find a number that works for both sides.How to ask for a promotion with less imposter syndrome: find what stresses your boss out, use your skills to relieve it, and keep casually interviewing elsewhere.How to quantify your value in a performance review without sounding boastful: tell your boss early that you track metrics, so the numbers are expected.What to do after being passed over for promotion: reframe your role through one-on-ones, show wins directly to the VP, take ownership instead of saying "should," and start looking outside.

🕒⏳ Time Markers

00:00 Welcome and Episode Focus

01:13 Why We Freeze Under Pressure

02:38 Meet Dave Wolovsky

04:04 Detach From Outcomes

06:36 Interview Mindset Shift

09:14 Balance the Power Dynamic

14:19 Job Search Hustle Made Easy

19:30 When to Talk Salary

24:02 Promotion and Imposter Syndrome

30:03 Quantify Your Value

33:45 Passed Over Three Times

37:28 Ownership Over Shoulds

40:17 Key Takeaways and Where to Find Dave Wolovsky

❓❓Frequently Asked Questions

How do I stay calm in a job interview or salary negotiation?
Become less attached to the outcome by lining up other options beforehand, then accept that nerves will show up and get familiar with how they feel for you. Dave Wolovsky mentions that even experts feel the same anxiety whenever they reach for something bigger, so the goal is to befriend it, not erase it.

When is the best time to bring up salary in a job interview?

Wait until later in the process, after you've met the team and built trust, because your leverage comes from the company wanting you. If the employer states a fixed salary in the first interview, they likely have many applicants, so decide whether it works for you.

How do I ask for a promotion if I have imposter syndrome?

Find out what stresses your boss and use your skills to take some of that stress away, then keep casually interviewing elsewhere. Going above and beyond builds confidence, and knowing you have options lowers the stakes of the conversation.

Connect with our Guest Dave Wolovsky

Website: effortwise.comLinkedIn, YouTube and Instagram: EffortWise 

Connect with Aesha Tahir and 9 to 5 Wellness

Website: aeshatahir.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/aeshatahirInstagram: @tone_and_strengthenPartner with the podcast: 9to5wellness.com/brand-partnership

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