Clinical Psychologist: "Don't Get Married Until You Fix This ONE Thing." | Dr. A Basheer Kutty

"At the first cup, man takes wine. At the third cup, wine takes man."

Why do academic "class toppers" often struggle the most in marriage? Is your phone addiction actually a biological rewiring of your brain? And when does romantic possessiveness cross the line into a mental disorder?

In this episode, we sit down with Dr. A. Bashir Kutty (Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist & Author) to dismantle the comfortable myths we tell ourselves about success, habits, and love.

We discuss:

The "Class Topper" Syndrome: Why high achievers often lack the social skills to survive a marriage.The "Guest Rule": The controversial but effective way to handle toxic in-laws.Addiction 101: How to retune your brain from dopamine spikes.Red Flags: Why you should never marry a partner who threatens suicide.

About the Guest:

Dr. A. Bashir Kutty is a renowned Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist, and Lawyer with a PhD from the Central Institute of Psychiatry, Ranchi. He is an Associate Professor at Government Medical College, Trivandrum, and has over two decades of experience in mental health and confidence building.

Best-Selling Books by Dr. Bashir Kutty:

Manassu: Uyarnna Chindayum PerumattavumPsychology for B.Sc NursingOru Manasastranjante Case DiaryDhyana Budha Kathakal

Timestamps:

(00:00) "Wine Takes Man": The 3 Stages of Addiction

(02:51) Is Your Phone Addiction Laziness or Biology?

(05:13) How Your Brain "Tunes" Habits

(10:08) Practical Steps to Break a Bad Habit

(15:08) The Silent Trap of Alcoholism

(22:16) Digital Detox: Can You Survive Without Instagram?

(25:23) The "Unpaid Servant" Syndrome

(27:40) How to Treat a Daughter-in-Law (The "Guest" Rule)

(33:40) Toxic In-Laws & The Food Complaint Incident

(36:30) Husbands: Acknowledge Your Waiting Wife

(40:00) The Story of the Doctor & The Driver

(44:12) Why "Class Toppers" Often Fail in Marriage

(53:00) The Fear of Marriage: Are You an "Experiment"?

(56:40) Possessiveness is NOT Love

(58:50) Suicide Threats & Narcissism: Red Flags

(01:04:45) Hiding Mental Health Issues Before Marriage

(01:06:14) Joint Family vs. Living Separately

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